“I know that help and support is always available”

Gerald’s story

To begin with, I didn't want to move here! I will explain, but first, a little personal background. I'm a retired 86-year-old Geordie, and although I've lived in the South now for much of my life, I was born and brought up in Newcastle-upon-Tyne, and I bleed the black and white blood of Newcastle United.  

Shortly after my retirement, I had moved to a very pleasant flat in Weybridge to be near my married daughter and her family in Hersham. However, as I became older, my daughter thought that I ought to live somewhere where there could be some support in the event I were to need it in my advancing years. She contacted Walton Charity with a view to my moving into Fenner House. At that stage, I wasn't keen on the idea as I felt I was being "put out to pasture" and, despite being in my late 70's, I was still very active and certainly not ready to be written off! 

However, as most fathers know, daughters are not to be denied, so in 2017 at the age of 77, I became a resident of Fenner House. At first, the sentiments expressed above didn't encourage me to mix much. I kept myself to myself and concentrated on practising my main hobbies of photography, swimming, playing tennis, and indulging my three grandsons. There were a couple of very pleasant near neighbours whom I used to see in the corridor but that was about it. 

Then, as time went by, Fenner won me over and I became much more involved with some of its many activities. I also began using my photographic skills to support some of the charity's activities, including a fascinating, collaborative venture with the Royal Horticultural Society at Wisley.  

The outcome of all this is that, now, I'm more than happy to say that I thoroughly enjoy my time here, mixing with many more residents and feeling fully supported by the excellent staff. 

Towards the end of 2025, I suffered a stroke which temporarily stopped me from walking. When I was eventually allowed to return home, I really valued that support, unstintingly given by both staff and other residents.  

These days, and in marked contrast to my original sentiments, I now have some good reasons to fully enjoy and appreciate living in Fenner House. I can live independently in the way that suits me and pursue all my own interests; I now have many friends and enjoy the various activities like the annual BBQ. I regularly play chess with a neighbour, whilst others enjoy the gardening group. 

Importantly, I know that help and support is always available when necessary, and I've certainly NOT been "put out to pasture"! 

—Gerald, Fenner House; October 2026